When people think of elopements, the first thought is often how simple and stress-free it should be. Just the two of you, a stunning backdrop, and the freedom to say your vows wherever your hearts desire. But the truth is even elopement planning can come with its own kind of stress! Between finding the perfect location, navigating family expectations, and planning all the little details, it’s no wonder that some couples find themselves feeling burnt out. But don’t worry you’re not alone, and I’m here to help you get back on track!

Signs You Might Be Burnt Out from Elopement Planning

If you’re feeling overwhelmed planning your elopement, you might be experiencing some signs of burnout without even realizing it! Maybe you’re feeling irritable or anxious every time you think about the big day, or you find yourself obsessing over tiny details like which flowers to include. You might be constantly second-guessing your choices, changing your mind about locations, outfits, or even vendors, and feeling guilty for not being “excited enough” about your elopement. Sometimes, it even gets to the point where you’re avoiding decisions altogether because it just feels like too much. If any of this sounds familiar, it might be time to take a step back, breathe, and reset. 

Why Even Elopements Can Feel Stressful

Elopements are meant to be a simpler alternative to traditional weddings, but that doesn’t mean they’re completely stress-free. The reality is, you’re still planning a major life event, and that comes with big decisions, and sometimes a bit of overwhelm. Even with a smaller guest list, there are still important choices to make. On top of that, there’s often family or social pressure, with questions like, “Why aren’t you having a real wedding? Add to that the endless scroll of Pinterest and Instagram, and it’s easy to get overwhelmed by inspiration overload, making you second-guess everything you thought you wanted. And while elopements are supposed to be laid-back and real, the pressure to make everything look picture-perfect can sometimes steal the joy out of it.

Elopement Planning Tips to Reduce Stress

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, here are a few elopement planning tips to bring back the joy and ease:

Prioritize What Matters Most

Focus on what truly matters to you. Maybe it’s the location, maybe it’s the experience, or maybe it’s the photos that capture it all. Whatever it is, put your energy there and let go of the rest.

Limit Your Choices

Choose one or two sources of inspiration and stick with them. Narrowing it down will help you stay focused.

Outsource What Stresses You Out

Find vendors who can handle the parts that feel heavy! Like photography, planning, and even officiating. I’m here to help with all three, so you don’t have to do it alone!

Set Boundaries with Others

This is your day. Set clear expectations with family and friends about what you want, and don’t be afraid to say no if it doesn’t align with your vision.

Create a Simple Timeline Early

Planning out the day, even loosely, can help you feel more prepared and less rushed. I help all my clients create stress-free timelines that allow for adventure and relaxation!

How to Reignite the Excitement of Elopement Planning

If the stress has taken over, it’s time to bring back the joy. Revisit why you chose to elope and remember that initial excitement of saying your vows in a place that matters to you. Take a moment to visualize your day, how you want it to feel, not just how it will look. Sometimes all you need is a no-pressure date night to step away from planning and reconnect. And don’t be afraid to take a break from it all sometimes, a few days away brings back fresh eyes. If you’re still feeling stuck, chat with someone who gets it like your photographer or planner to bring some clarity back to your vision!

Let’s Bring Back the Joy to Your Elopement Planning!

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, know that you don’t have to do this alone. I’m here to help make the planning simple, meaningful, and stress-free! I offer full support beyond just photography. I’m here for location scouting, timeline planning, and even connecting you with the best vendors. Whether you’re dreaming of a sunrise ceremony in Yosemite or a cozy, intimate elopement in Sequoia, I’ve got you covered! Check out more of my work on the blog and contact me here!